Are We Separated Yet?

One of the most common misconceptions for family law clients is when they are “legally separated.” Some people equate separation with the drafting of a separation agreement and believe they are not legally separated until pen has been put to paper. Others believe they are legally separated once one person moves out of the master bedroom and into the guest room. In fact, North Carolina law is very specific on the definition of legal separation. In order to be legally separated, a party must be physically separated with at least one spouse having the intent to end the martial relationship.

This means there are two important requirements in order to be legally separated in North Carolina. First, the parties have to be physically apart. This does not mean a couple is living in two separate bedrooms on different ends of the home. To qualify, the couple must actually be living in two different homes or locations. Most commonly, one person leaves the martial home to live in an apartment somewhere else. Separation can also include, however, an overseas deployment or temporary change in duty station (so long as the second requirement is also met). Second, at least one person in the relationship has to have the intent to end the martial relationship. This means at least one spouse has decided the marriage is over. The law does not require communication of this intention or desire to the other spouse, but communication is certainly an easy means of proving the exact date of separation. While separation agreements are great tools to use in addressing many of the issues which will arise in a divorce, an agreement is not required to be legally separated.

Once a couple has been legally separated for one year, they may file for a divorce. A party may file for a divorce in North Carolina so long as one person has been living in this state for the last six months.

Contact Cristina Quantock if you considering a divorce and want to make sure you are prepared.

About the Author: Cristina Quantock has been practicing in North Carolina for over ten years. Her practice includes both criminal defense and family law. She understands firsthand how emotionally draining it is when a marriage ends and is dedicated to helping her clients navigate this difficult process.